Marriage Relationship – Relating With Parents and In-laws

The misery of two becoming one flesh usually does not impress parents in some culture. Parents of the pride find it difficult to accept that they had lost their daughter to the husband's family. The husband's parents also do not recognize that it is no more their usual son but a combination of their old son and another's person's daughter. What now emerges is neither he nor she. The metamorphosis of these two personalities should be allowed to redefine their relationship. Parents of both sides are equal friends to the couple, but not part of them in decision making neither should they intrude into the new affairs. Here are 4 ways to strengthen your relationship with parents.

1. Put An End To Every Private Discussion With Parents

The couple needs to enforce this reality in their relationship with parents of both sides. The wife can no longer hold private discussions with her parents in the absence of her husband. This due to the fact, that she no longer owns herself anymore but the husband. In the same way, the husband can no longer holds exclusive discussion with his parents without the wife. Parents of both sides must accept to relate with the couple at the same time and the same way.

2. Plan Visit To Parents At The Same Time

You need to visit parents together at the same time. Your meal should be served together. The wife should not move to the mother room (as if to suck some breast), leaving the husband in cold out there to keep thinking of when he get to his own mother's breast as well. Whatever your mother can not tell you with your husband present, is probably not good for your home.

In the same vain, whatever your father can not tell you (as the husband) with your wife present do not worth it. Even though they believe it is not for her consumption, her presence with you will protect you and your home. Do not leave your wife behind with her parents; your becoming one flesh can be jeopardized that way. Do not send your husband to his mother, when it comes to his family needs. You will do yourself much good if you both go together.

3. Giving To Parents

When it comes to giving to parents or relatives needs, do it together. Needs arising from any side should be treated with one mind. Sit together on the couch while they presents their needs. Write private letters using your names, when they write you separately, reply jointly with two of you signing. Gradually, they will realize that truly you are no more two but one.

4. Decision Making

Taking decision is another area you need to treat with all seriousness. If a call came when she is alone, give her the mandate to return the call. Learn to differ decision making till he or she comes. This way you build trust and respect on each other thereby forming a stronger marital bond.