Unhappy marriage – What is the Cause?

Marriage they say is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. But the fact still remains that a lots of marriages today are just thriving on the platform of endurance. Then the questions that do come to mind are what the likely causes of this ugly trend. Well the answers are not far fetched. In this article, 3 major causes of unhappy marriage.

Lack of love

Love is the driving force of every marriage. When love is no longer found in marriage there tends to be blames of kinds from one of the partner or both. Just as love can help build a marriage so all so lack of it can tear down the marriage. But the truth about love is that it can be fueled. Let me explain, love have tendency to drop down if it is not continually rehearsed. For instance, women generally, want to be assured that they are been loved by their husbands.

They therefore want to hear it time and again. Failure to do this could lead to an unhappy marriage. The men equally will like to hear that from their wives. To the men, it not a problem as when compared to women. "A successful marriage requires falling in love with many times with the same person". - Mark Twain

Incompatible Spouse

There is no doubt that there are couples that are can just do things in common. Nothing their partner does that is good in their sight. They only see good others people partners as the best they would have married. Such couple can said that they are incompatible. That is why Tom Mullen said,"happy marriage begins when we marry the ones we love and blossom when we love the ones we marry".

In marriage, the two parties must not be the same, Agreed! But there should be a common correlation between the couple. What people call incompatibility is nothing more than failure of adjustment. That is to say, taking your spouse the way he or she is. Try having you way in most cases has caused a lot of problems than good. Accepting your partner may be good remedy of unhappy marriage.

Unrealistic Expectations

It is unrealistic to expect marriage to be problem-free. Unrealistic expectation is a major cause of unhappy marriage. Many couples become disillusioned when they discover that marriage is not all they had expected and their spouse is not quite what they have envisioned him or her to be.

Additionally, many people unrealistically expect to get more out of marriage than they have put into it. Blinded by romantic notions of matrimonial bliss, they tend to overlook the responsibility and hard work needed to build a happy marriage.

My simple advice is to love and cherish the one you are married to. Learn. But don't expect it to be an over-night thing.