Demanding Job And Marriage

There is nothing as good as having a good job with good take home pay but serious time consuming jobs is not too good for the family. This has done more harm than good in many families, as your presence as a mother and father is needed most times by your spouse. Get me right friend, I am not saying stay at home always with your family and forget about your job. All I am saying is that undue attachment to once work at the expense of the family is not a good idea.

And probably worst when the take home pay does not commensurate with the time put into the job. When a man or woman stays too long at work, the other partner will start feeling lonely, neglected, abandoned and sometimes frustrated. In some cases your spouse may accuse you of not caring and unfriendly. Distancing yourself from your spouse for a long time could cause emotional separation.

I once heard a woman said, "is it not better that I am still single". Look at that kind of statement. I remember a scenario where the husband always go to work 5.00am when the kids are still fast asleep and most times comes back from work around 10.00pm, when the kids have gone to bed. Until a particular day he came back at 5.00pm due to his ill-health. When he knocked the door the children shouted to call the mother that they have a visitor. Imagine that!

Suggestions

What then is the way out! Here are few suggestions.

1. Create time on weekend like Friday evening and spend some time with the family.
2. You can take the family to the zoo, beach or any good place of relaxation.
3. Make for off duty. Note that this should be plan with your boss. It could be your annual leave.
4. Striking a balance between your work and family will be a good idea.
5. Create fun whenever you are at home. Let them feel your presence.
6. If you are not satisfy with the take home pay you can off cause get another job with less time and higher pay package.
7. Let your spouse understand the reason you spend much time at work. Tell her explicitly.
8. Make them to know the benefits why you are giving it that kind of time.
9. Avoid disagreement with your spouse as this could be an avenue to air his or her grievances.
10. Look for a counselor on money issues and get sound advice.